I love posts about Saturn and synastry
"This is not to say there aren’t inter-chart aspects with Saturn that are not tough to deal with as there are. Saturn forming squares and inconjuncts to the Moon and Venus in particular can be difficult to resolve. However, conjunctions and oppositions as well as squares show up with great frequency in chart comparisons of couples that have been together – and happily – for many years. One of the key factors may be that most of time there has been some kind of formal documentation of the relationship, i.e., marriage, wills, etc. Saturn likes it very much when both partners sign on the dotted line and announce to the community that they are a couple.
Conjunctions, trines, sextiles and oppositions between Saturn and the Sun, Moon, Mercury, Venus, Mars, Ascendant and Descendant are all aspects that can indicate a relationship that will be durable. Saturn acts as a stabilizing element and helps ground the relationship in time and space. When the synastry has loads of Jupiter and Uranus inter-aspects for fun and freedom, I like to see a good solid Saturn aspect to provide some balance. If I don’t see one or two, then the likely hood is the relationship will burn brightly and then both partners will move on.
My S/O’s Saturn is conjunct my Moon/Neptune which falls in his seventh House . . . classic aspect for the long run. Traditional astrology says I will experience this as oppressive and run into lots of resistance to the natural expression of my emotional nature. I will own up to some of that but after seventeen years of being essentially happy and comfortable together my over-riding experience has been one where I find him emotionally dependable and this creates a feeling of security for me. OK, I have Taurus on the cusp of my seventh House so I LIKE a partner that others may find boring but that’s the beauty of astrology – we can determine what type of partner best suits us."
The comments, however, are even better.
"First, synastry aspects represent potential areas of connection or conflict. How they manifest very definitely depends on our level of self-awareness, as you so nicely state. The more aware you are, the less likely you are to be a "victim" of your chart.
Second, as in birth charts, synastry charts often contain contradicting aspects. These sometimes cancel each other out, or if one is stronger, the other might not ever be noticeable at all.""Pat, sometime back you mentioned using the Vertex in synastry and just recently I went back & looked at the charts of a couple that had really had me puzzled. The usual markers for good relationship were few and far between yet this was a long standing relationship.
Guess what! Their Vertexes were opposite within three degrees! Another astrological puzzle solved.""Sometimes I think there are people who just "defy" their charts. I looked at a synastry chart last week for a friend who's been married for 30 years. The only Saturn aspects are the bad ones (e.g., Mars square Saturn), they have absolutely no Venus-Mars connection, and her Taurus planets are all square his Aquarius planets. They did, however, have major connections with Vertex and nodes. When they met, she was a waitress in a restaurant where he was tending bar. Does that sound destined or what?"
"This is why I love astrology . . . in addition to the Art & intuitive side of it, there is an underlying logic. You thinking to check Nodes, Mid-points and the Vertex is a perfect example! I ran across the chart of a Cap man w/Moon in Pisces that went for Aries or Sag women time after time . . . the birth time he gave me came up Taurus ASC. By changing that by one minute, he had a 29 Aries ASC and then it made sense why these very Fiery women kept falling for him."
"Steven Arroyo is just about the best when it comes to relationships I've ever found. He's the first astrologer that I've come across who pointed out dynamic individuals frequently enjoy the challenge of lots of squares and oppositions in their relationship charts."
