Mars/Saturn at its ugliest

I don't know why I keep reading this Chris Brown/Rihanna stuff. He doesn't even have Mars/Saturn, but as I went through the comments here, I found one particularly chilling comment:

"Male abusers have no sanction. Full stop. They abuse because that is the epitome of manliness. It is what is underlined in toxic masculinity, a quick shortcut to being seen as a man to pick on those weaker than yourself or perceived as weaker and to tolerate none having access to any power but yourself especially someone “lesser than”. We see the construction of letting them off the hook each time a male celebrity is shown as “pussy whipped” for genuinely loving their partner and wanting to help or sacrifice for their career. We see it when we call movies where the woman is treated like shit and the man indiscriminately kills, man movies and ones where the man still acts like a shit but 10% less so as woman movies that no man would watch because the sheer concentration of women in the audience will somehow leech precious bodily fluids from them. They abuse because they will never receive the backlash that a woman will receive merely for being vocal about rape and abuse."

To me, this is always an aspect that screams, "handle with caution." It reminds me of "power corrupts" because on some level, I think it could be very easy to go to the ugly place with it. Not everybody does, and some people put it to good use, but I will always be a little nervous until I find out how they are handling it. It bugs me deeply that our culture gets like this, you know?

The final line of the comment is:

"We need to break this toxic idea of masculinity and either replace it with a better idea of masculinity or mostly do away with it and let the new genders define themselves."

Amen to that.