More Saturn relationship issues
How bad is it to marry someone with Saturn in the seventh/Venus Saturn? Ouch.
For people new to astrology, traditional interpretation of Saturn in the 7th house (or any other Venus Saturn exchange) is burden in relationship. There are other manifestations of course. People marry older partners, controlling partners, the marriage is a business deal and I could go on and on. Fact is whatever the case, some restriction is given.
Now before you go swearing off anyone with a Venus Saturn exchange in their chart (or stabbing yourself if it’s you with Saturn in the 7th) just consider the alternative. How would you like a partner with no restrictions, hmm? How about he or she runs amok all over the land? Sound any better? I didn’t think so.
I think that one depends on the restrictions. Some are easier than others. But yeah, I know people who run amok and they're all annoying.
I faced this head on when I decided to hook up with the soldier. There was tremendous impediment that would have to be overcome if we were to be together. There would be long delay of gratification but just in general, he has a very hard life in many ways, for may reasons.
I have a very hard life as well but his is even worse and I talked openly about this with friends. I understood that it I opted to hook up with him I would inherit his problems and hardships. I would assume all his burdens and there were a long list of them. Further, one look at his chart and it’s pretty clear it will always be this way so what to do?
What I did was think about it long and hard and I felt about it very deeply until I came to a decision and made a very serious commitment… to myself and to him. So to answer the question, personally I would (and have already) married someone with a Venus Saturn signature in their chart though I’d caution anyone to follow suit unless they had certain qualities.
If you do not have a level of maturity for example, you’re going to be in big trouble with your Saturnian partner. If you want to live in la la land, here again the person with Saturn associated with Venus is going to mess you up big time.
On the other hand if you want real (Saturn) love (Venus), the conscious Venus Saturn person has it to give. Thing is, I don’t think many want real love. They want a movie or an adventure or a fling. Maybe they want some danger or to piss off their mommy by dating or marrying you. Consequently Venus Saturn and their “real love” goes begging.
I think I am the burden myself. I am extremely bound to my mother and unlikely to escape it. I want out, but short of death or landing on Craphole Island, that is never going to happen. And any poor bastard with me has to deal with it (so far, they have been rather ticked and all, "Why can't you just cut her off?" Not that they ever did this themselves, mind you.) I don't like being burdened (Sag moon haaaaaaaaaates this), but it's like having a kid: I can't run away. I will be stuck being a caregiver again at some point, even though I am just terrible at it, because there is no one else. That time might be soon, I might have a few years' leeway, but the anvil will drop again on me, and only on me.
I tend to think, "I already have the burden, why should I take on MORE burden?!" in relationships now. Mainly because I didn't do terribly well at taking on a burden with my last ex, who was definitely a burden with regards to physical health. He hasn't had good health like ever, it's all genetic, and it's only gonna get worse as he goes on. (Also, he does run amok with money. Literally could not hold on to it for longer than 12 hours, HAD to spend it. Worse than me on shopaholicness, I swear.) He was the ex who reminded me the most of my dad and I was secretly butt-terrified that I'd be a shitty caregiver to him the worse he got in the future. I would tell him this and he would always brush it off (he's a terminal optimist). I think I'd prefer someone burden-free, because I already have my arms full o' crap with too much to handle as is. I dunno how much choice you have in the matter, though.
I guess in the end I wouldn't want to choose to go through with taking it on, but would be forced into it. Because I am a shit magnet.
Back to Elsa again...
One look at all the Saturn action in this chart and it’s no wonder we opted out of this relationship as teenagers. I think it was just too daunting but what about that thing they call “karma”? What about “destiny”?
I can be no accident we spend 28.5 years apart… a Saturn cycle and then are put back together to do what we would not or could not when we were kids. Something like this happens to you and if you’re us you start to maybe put 2 and 2 together or try to anyway And when we put 2 and 2 together we come up with the idea you just can’t avoid your destiny.
It doesn’t matter if you don’t like your destiny. It doesn’t matter if it scares you, pisses you off, makes you whine or whatever other kind of hijinks you can imagine, whatever it is your are trying to avoid (or pawn off on others) is going to come back and get you and get you in spades.
So in this case I was going to try to opt away from the Special Forces soldier. I didn’t want to deal with (anymore) death. I wanted to have a lighter fare life for a switch, but guess what? That was not my destiny anymore than having blond hair is my destiny and our having put this off and delayed it for 30 years did us little good. It may be understandable but it was not advisable and my point as it relates to others is this:
Whatever your problems may be… let’s say you have problems in relationship since they are so focal for me. You are only going to be able to run so long. You can run all the way to your grave if you like but where is that going to get you? Will you wake up in your next life with the same problems only worse?
Based on my life experience I tend to think so.
