Saturn relationships

Another Lindaland thread...

"I met a guy at a social event and had a fun time talking to him most of the night. We have run into each other at a few other social events and spent a lot of time talking and laughing. But there was no follow-up w/ him. No, "hey we should hang out sometime." I know he's single and he's said that he thinks I'm attractive and fun to hang out with. So I thought what gives? I was talking to a friend who said that I should ask him out if he doesn't ask me out. But something just kept me from doing it. I had a sense that once I opened the can of worms it wouldn't be a light and fun relationship.. Can't explain it really, but I hesitated.

The feeling felt similar to the one I had in the early stages of getting to know my most recent ex-bf who I had Saturn contacts with. So I thought to look at the synastry contacts between me and this new guy and I found a few Saturn aspects, namely my saturn opposite his sun and his saturn conjunct my sun.
What the heck?? Am I just drawn to people I have "difficult" contacts with, or am I supposed to be learning something important with these people?
Its hard to say if we'll even date at this point since we're both being very hesitant.. But I'm just curious if other people have ever had a string of relationships w/ Saturn overtones/undertones and what their experiences were..."

"It doesn't have to mean marriage.. but it is usually a bond that the people won't break."

"I actually have a Venus/Saturn opposition going with someone and it is intense! The Saturn in Taurus person is 7 years older than me...I have Venus in Scorpio. The attraction is intense and disconcerting....I just KNOW if I relaxed for a moment, I'd end up feeling as though I am being help captive by this person."

"AND, alot of times, a relationship with a signifigant age difference is started during a Saturn transit of one or another. I know this was true for me!"

Me too.

"SATURN never made it easy for us. But it gave some "glue" to that relationship that made it last quite long. Maybe even longer than necessary or healthy ... And it made both of us "more mature", I guess."

"The object of my affection & I both have a history of non-commitment,,,we are both up in years and between us, we have way too many years of running..
So, as I mentioned, we do have Venus opposite EACH OTHERS Saturn-. We've been dancing around the idea of a relationship, but getting together is difficult for reasons I don't quite understand...we always have and, good time together, and it also feels scary."

"With me it's been more than a year, no progress or rather progress was followed by retreat every single time. A friend of mine also has the venus-saturn opposition with his girlfriend, but only one way. He also felt a sense of 'regonition'. But also huge problems in getting the relationship off the ground, took 4 years to be precise."

"I was wondering though after reading through your post and Anna's, do you guys have an issue with vulnerability? What is the roadblock to taking your attraction to the next level? Are you waiting for the other person to bring it up? Are there instances you find yourself subconciously making sure they won't pursue you? For me, I wrote an email to mine insinuating that he should hit on other women and leave me alone. I said it in a humorous manner but it was definitely a way of me staying "safe."