Scorpio dating

This post is part of the Scorpio Group Writing Project at Seduction Central.

I'm having a hard time picking a topic for this, since while technically I am not a Scorpio, I am Scorpio rising (and feel just as equally Scorpionic as I do Taurean. In case you couldn't tell from the horoscope linking), and spend a lot of time with Scorpios, was fathered by one, and yes, dated one (the ex-fiance).

What it's like to date as a Scorpio (rising)? Well, I have read plenty of places saying that I'm supposed to be some dark goddess of seduction, but I doubt I come off like that to well, anyone I didn't sleep with. The exes would probably say differently, but that side doesn't come out too often.
I definitely keep my secrets, in a sense. My Sag moon makes me all blabbity blab blab girl, but there's always a few elements of me that I don't mention. Probably nobody else but me would even care about what I'm not disclosing, but some stuff does not come out. I like having a personality that looks like I am showing all my cards, but really am sneaking one down the sleeve.
I like to investigate folks that I am interested in but not seeing. I quietly observe from a distance to see if they are worth crushing on before pondering making a move. Yes, I'd happily read a dude's blog if I could (I've never dated someone who had one, for the record), and I find it irritating when I am vaguely interested in someone who isn't interested in barfing their brain across the Internet for my perusal.

As for dating a Scorpio: At the time, it seemed very appropriate and fitting. Peanut butter and jelly. Emotionally, he was a better fit than the other exes because he was equally invested in the emotional relationship. He was perhaps a bit needier than I was, but we weren't far off on that (again, compared to the other two). Unlike the others, he wanted to commit- hell, he proposed on date three. And he was more into the marriage thing than I was at the time- I was all, "hey, a long engagement is good, let's do some planning first" whereas at some point, he probably would have wanted to elope. I'd happily date another Scorpio again, given the opportunity. The other guys made me swear off Caps and Aquarians for life :P Unlike them, this ex actually HAD feelings for a long period of time, and an attention span.

There's a bumper sticker at Hot Topic that says, "Never @#$# With A Scorpio." My ex wanted that sticker. Yup, he had The Temper. Luckily, he didn't lash it out at me, because I would have gone running, but when other people ticked him off, he'd look quite scary.

As for stubbornness battles, well... again, luckily we never got into any screaming matches, but he would be quite determined to believe what he wanted to believe, even when told otherwise. For example, I told him early on that I wasn't going to change my name or have children, and he said he was okay with the latter. But later on, he'd do things like call me a MILF, and say, "When we have kids..." all the time. I'd have to rag on him quite a bit to even get him to say, "All right, all right, IF we had kids..." It seemed like no matter how many times I'd say something like, "No, I'm not taking your name, and I'm not hyphenating, because the name would be way too long and people would kill me," I'd find myself having the same conversation with him again and again about how I wasn't going to do what he was insisting I'd do someday. We didn't break up for the kid reason (ironically, he probably can't have any), but if other problems hadn't existed, and he had been fertile, we probably would have broken up for that one alone. He just couldn't acknowledge that I'd want something differently than he did, at least not for very long. Quite irritating, since my Sag moon was all, "Hey, I TOLD YOU!", and I really wasn't wanting to keep having that conversation over and over again.

One oddity, though: my Scorpio ex was not that kinky. I suspect having certain medical tests would have made that activity seem a lot less fun.

All things considered, personalitywise he wasn't nearly as much trouble as other folks, and I don't mean to slam on the Scorpios in this one too badly. The stubbornness was probably the biggest irritant. The temper could have been, but unlike a lot of male Scorpios I've known, he could manage to not lash out at the nearest and dearest every time he wasn't happy.