Venus Saturn hell

I was reading this:

With a stellium in Virgo in the 8th house, you want to help. You’re a trauma nurse who wants to mix it up and heal the wounded. And though I have no doubt you stay very busy and are very good at this, meanwhile your (unattended) leg is rotting off.
Your unattended leg is the Venus Saturn aspect in your chart. This and everything it signifies is your real un-comfort zone. Being deprived of relationship. Delay. Control issues in relationship.
For example, you want to define (Saturn) your partner (Venus) as if you know best what you need. Are you sure about that?
And this last guy. He would not do what you thought he should do in the way you thought he should do it. Damn him!
And why are you waiting? He’s not waiting. See what I am getting at? This is your problem and it’s huge. And I put it that way to hopefully whet your appetite. You know how keen you are to fix things, so fix this:
Fix the fact you obsess over your upper body when it’s your rotting leg causing all the problems. Start by looking at the parent/child theme in all your relationships. This should get you to the meat very directly.

But THEN what do you do?

I hate to say it, but it seems to me that almost all male/female relationships end up having the mommy-parent, male-child thing going on in them. It drives me batshit. On the other hand, I'm not sure how the hell to combat them being raised with that attitude in our culture either.

Hell, ex-fiance's mom had two sons and there wasn't a "woman's work" attitude going on in that house at all (mommy is a tough lady). And while my ex was more domestic-y than me (and to be honest, wasn't as bothered compared to the rest that I wasn't), he STILL had the "me caveman, me think woman should stay home and man make money" attitude going on deep down. I really think it's more likely that I'll end up dealing with more people like than than finding the One Special Snowflake(TM) Who Wasn't Taken Early And Doesn't Act Like That. And thus, I should learn to cope with reality instead of unicorn hunting.

Back to the point- how's about this one?

You think there is something inherently wrong with you. And this is you JOB to solve. I’m serious! Learning (Saturn) to partner (all the Venus stuff) is your job in this lifetime, and you are absolutely going to have to face your fear and get out there.

*sigh*