What dogs you
My idea here is that each of us has specific energy and it’s going to play in our lives one way or other. I contend all energy is neutral until it is directed and if you have a pattern of having difficulty in relationship it’s a safe bet your energy is being directed into your relationships in a way that is destructive.
When someone loves you they can and will process your (negative) energy. But there is only so much a person can take and if you want to improve your relationships it makes sense to manage as much of your stuff as you can and cut the partner and/or the friends, a break.
And this means you have to find outlets for the energy you embody that is challenging. And astrology is a tremendous aid because you can tell with a glance at a chart exactly what the problem is.